Comments on: Were My Parents Naive, Or Is Life More Dangerous Now?

By: puppet shows

puppet shows — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 04:41:17 +0000

I guess parents have different insights in parenting. In your case, your parents would like you to explore the world and challenge yourself. Face your fears and become successful.

Our parents would always wish for the best for their children, but sometimes we’re just too naive to see them right away. But either way, we should be thankful in every way that God gave us such wonderful parents.

Just spread the love and enjoy.
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By: cisv international

cisv international — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 15:54:34 +0000

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By: Lisis

Lisis — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 14:41:10 +0000

Lina, did you start as an 11 year old in 2001? If so, were you already a fairly independent 11 year old? I’m just curious because I know some kids who can leave home and go stay with a friend or relative for a week at a time, and others (like mine) who doesn’t want to be away at all.

I definitely think if I sent my son to cisv he’d come back a whole lot more independent… he would HAVE to. But that’s also a bit of a “swim or sink” approach to getting him ready to face the world. Is it possible some kids are ready before others are? Could the same independence be achieved if he starts going when he’s 15, instead?

I’m coming at this from a weird angle because I, too, went, loved it, and survived. So, I have faith in the value of the program. But I feel like I’d have to FORCE my son to go, and that doesn’t feel right to me.

Why don’t kids come with owner’s manuals?

By: lina

lina — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 03:03:38 +0000

i am not a mum but i am a cisver….i was in the US in 2001 for a village and participated ever since. nothing has happened to me. i am fine. i went to another country to go to uni. i dont think i would be as confident as i am today without cisv. so i say- send your kid away and he will come back a person.

By: Lisis

Lisis — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 15:36:52 +0000

Hi, Eysteinn! Iceland, huh? How very cool.

I wish this wasn’t causing so much tension in your family right now, but at the same time, I can’t say I blame you about your concerns. On the pro side, I can tell you that two of my siblings and I went, loved it, had a great time, and still look upon it as one of our favorite memories of all time. On the con side, I still feel like there are more dangerous or perverted people these days (though it may be only because we are more aware of them).

I definitely would not force your son to go, just for some idealized experience, but I also would not deprive him if he feels ready. The other thing to consider is, maybe he could skip the 11 year old trip and go later as a Junior Counselor at 15? He would still get to be a part of the international coolness, but it might be a more appropriate age for him. At least, that’s one of the things I’ve considered for my son.

I have a feeling my son will NOT be ready at 11. He’s 9 now and still doesn’t like to spend the night away from home, even with his very best friends. So, at this point, I’m thinking he has a better chance of attending the 15 year old CISV experience.

The biggest complication for you, really, is that you and your wife do not agree about his current level of readiness… which is why your son will probably have to be the one to decide (unfortunately). If he feels ready, you may just have to let him go and trust in him, in God, the Universe, whatever you trust in that things will work out fine.

Either way, I know this is a very difficult decision, and I wish I could make it easier for you.

Happy Holidays, my friend! Please let me know what you end up deciding.

Lisis