10 Parenting Tips for Guaranteed Success
April 30, 2009
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Lisis,
Useful post!
“7. Hide their veggies in their favorite foods.” We had this problem with both our children – they didn’t want to eat vegetables. The odd thing is that now our eldest son is a vegetarian – go figure.
As you said, I think eating by example also helps.
You son is lucky to have you as a parent.
Roger – A Content Life’s latest post… Raising Sane Children
I love it! A perfect exercise in contradictions! What better way to teach them about life than to show them that people are full of contradictions?!
But seriously, this is a good reminder that no “one” way works best for everyone, all the time. There’s a time to be a hardcase, and a time to be soft hearted. A time to enforce the rules, and a time to brea…er…bend them. A time for discipline, and a time for freedom. A time for…Ok, if I don’t stop here, I’ll start quoting songs….:)
Jay Schryer’s latest post… The First Swim of Summer
Hi, guys! Yeah, it’s always amazed me how some parents will argue until they are blue in the face about how kids should be raised (their way). If you’ve ever seen the show Wife Swap then you have witnessed clear examples of how opposite parental extremes usually benefit from meeting somewhere in the middle. You know me, though, I think extremes should be avoided in general.
My favorite part here is the final quote: “Children need love, especially when they do not ‘deserve’ it.” (Harold Hulbert) Awww… makes me want to cry thinking of all the little ones trying desperately to get attention, even if it’s negative attention.
I don’t have children, though my brother has 6, but I can imagine what a tremendous responsibility parenting must be. Your list had many excellent points especially in regards to teaching your children. One thing you didn’t mention that I feel is important is manners / appropriate behavior.
My husband and I spend a great deal of time at the local bookstore and it amazes me when I see someone come into the cafe with their kids and they allow them to run and scream or roller skate in the cafe. Remember, this is a bookstore where most of the people are reading. Though this is the exception, it does happen.
It reflects poorly on the parents who aren’t taking the time to teach their children about appropriate behavior. Children should enjoy their childhood to the fullest but there is an appropriate time and place for everything.
Loving your children and teaching your children are the best things you can do for them.
Debra Wier | The Metamorphosis Cafe’s latest post… Experience Joy Through The Eyes Of A Child
Hi, Debra! I’m so glad you left a comment so that I could find your blog! What a beautiful site!! And I love the photo you have on the current post… I can’t wait to read through it and get familiar with your blog. Thanks!
I completely agree with what you mentioned about behavior. I was commenting on Roger’s blog recently about how horrified I am when I go to playgrounds these days. Parents just “dump” the kids and go off to talk or walk or whatever. Meanwhile these little terrors are bullying everyone without any consequences because they know no one is going to stop them! I’m not saying it’s the kids fault at all, or that they are bad kids. But I do think it would help tremendously if the parents stayed more involved and were more aware of how the kids behave when they think no one is watching.
Again, thanks for your comment and for bringing your wonderful blog to my attention!
Hi Lisis,
I do not have kids and I do not want any. So I have great admiration for mothers. That is a tough job and actually, I have a post coming out next week about that very topic. I hope you will add your voice to the discussion when it is published.
Anywyay, even though I do not have kids, I have been one and one of the greatest things my dad did when I was a kid was to teach me about money. When I was 12, my dad told me that he would provide for all my basic needs but if there was anything I wanted that exceeded parental obligation (his exact words), I would have to pay for it myself.
So I got my first job when I was 12. I ended up working for my dad and it was a great teacher. I went to school with kids whose parents paid for everything. I used to be upest that my parents did not buy me a car but they gave me more. My dad’s favorite quote is that the best way to help someone is not to give them fish but to teach them how to fish.
Apologies on the long comment…your post just brought up some wonderful childhood memories!
Nadia-HappyLotus’s latest post… Break Free & Live
Aw… I love being a part of your childhood memories (especially if they are GOOD ones!) Your first sentence reminds me of what Oprah always says, that motherhood is the hardest job in the world and she doesn’t think she can do it. Can you imagine ANYthing that Oprah can’t do!
I do think teaching kids the value of money is a must, particularly that they realize you have to DO something to get the money… so you should really think about how you want to spend it. It sounds like we have your dad to thank for your amazing work ethic!
9. Let them self-soothe and learn independence. Babies should be allowed to fall asleep in their cribs alone, and kids need to sleep in their own beds.
So…It’s bad that my 4-year-old daughter still sleeps with me?
Guess i’m guarnteed to FAIL!
Not at all… #10 is the exact opposite (and more in line with my approach). My point here is that any one of these strategies can work fine, if it is the right strategy for you.
6. Show them constructive ways to compromise. I always step in when my kids fight. I need to show them how to work it out themselves. How to compromise. That will help them in the future. Thanks for posting this. Very helpful and Informative.
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Absolutely – there are no “rules” to being a good parent. Nice post, thank you.
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You’re welcome A… and Emmy. Thanks for commenting.
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