Comments on: Fellowship Fridays: Dealing with Special Needs

By: Lisis

Lisis — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:32:51 +0000

You’re right, Nelia. I think two of the biggest traps we unwittingly fall into as parents are: comparing our kids to other kids, and trying to live vicariously through them (giving them the life we never had, or helping them achieve what we never did.) Either way, we are kind of expecting them to live up to someone else’s ideals.

What we really need to do is just back off a little, let them experiment and discover (maybe even stumble), and then support them in becoming who they want to be. It’s much easier to do that, and live without expectations, when you are just thankful each day that your child is still with you, and healthy, and happy. HUGE blessings.

Always great to see you, my dear!

By: Nelia

Nelia — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:19:49 +0000

Lisis : You? Speechless? I can't imagine the day. Re reason. Quite frankly, I never asked my parents what was the reason cited for placing my in the special needs class. I suppose I should, but the circumstance is water under the bridge after all these years. The "special need" issue never followed me to any other schools including the Ivy League I attended for law school. Whether this incident can be attributed to the color of my skin is unknown. But unfortunately, other racial instances occurred at this school, many of which were blatant. Re Hunter. I can see allowing myself fall prey to the "compare my kid to everybody else's" sydrome. I think that's a powerful gift to receive early in the life of your child and one I hope to remember when my own comes along. .-= Nelia´s last blog ..Moving Along =-.

By: Lisis

Lisis — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 17:41:53 +0000

Hi, Adventurous Wench! (Great name, btw!)

Welcome to Q4B! As I was reading their comments here, I had the same reaction you did… instant awareness of all the blessings in my life, not least of which is being able to share the journey with such wonderful and inspiring readers.

Thank you for your thoughtful comment.

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Adventurous Wench travel store — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 15:32:17 +0000

Hi Lisis, I stumbled this blog by chance and I was deeply touched by this article. I am lucky to have normal nephews and nieces in our family. Reading Jay’s, Karen’s, Tammy’s Nelia’s made me stop and ponder on how all the blessings God has given me.

I wish you all good health, peace of mind and happiness.

By: Lisis

Lisis — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 01:37:40 +0000

Hey, Donnell… thanks for the inspiration! I think it’s so neat that you have “Welcome to Holland” framed in her room. I had never read it before until after I met you. Someone sent me a twitter link about it. What a neat (and meaningful) coincidence.

Have a wonderful weekend!!