Comments on: How to Lose Your Worse-than-Useless Thoughts: Dispersal

By: Barbara Ling, Virtual Coach

Barbara Ling, Virtual Coach — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 09:04:09 +0000

I always ask myself, what am I meant to learn from whatever has happened?

Viewing difficult times as learning experiences makes them far easier to bear.
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By: Paul Maurice Martin

Paul Maurice Martin — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 13:46:08 +0000

Wilma – Absolutely – just becoming conscious that one’s trains of thought exist instead of being totally caught up in them – that’s the first essential step.

Barbara – I love that application – the idea of using the gentle “let it go” form to help friends and relatives. (But I guess a lot could depend on your tone of voice when you say it, lol!)

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 07:05:39 +0000

Hi Lisis and Paul,

Those trains in life certainly can get to us, can’t they? Over the course of the last several years I’ve been practicing the “let it go” technique. Not only has it worked for me, but when a friend or family member starts to invite me onto one of their trains, I’ve learned by saying “let it go” to them, it helps the train come to a halt and we can turn the conversation around to something positive.
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By: wilma ham

wilma ham — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 22:51:01 +0000

The biggest thing for me was actually making this train of thought visisble.
They became so part of me that they became comfortably familiar, like a safety blanket.
By giving somebody authority to point them out and then learning to observe them myself has been a great first step to finally let them go.
Having somebody taking my so called safety blanket away was another big step which was not done so easily either. But the freedom to finally be able to think solution focused thoughts rather than the what if’s ones, is enormous and does add to the quality of my life hugely.
I go forward a lot faster and a lot further in life as a consequence.
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By: Paul Maurice Martin

Paul Maurice Martin — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 15:22:26 +0000

Kristen, Lisis, and Jannie – I’m so glad people find this article useful. At the time that this perspective originally occurred to me, I’d been reading a lot of Buddhism, and this was an aspect of my personal take-off from that and my assimilation of it. So I’ve enjoyed seeing how people reading this article are finding ways to make it their own, to assimilate it, themselves…