Comments on: Jackie and Heidi: A Tale of Unlikely Companions

By: Lisis

Lisis — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 13:57:10 +0000

@ Evita: Thank you for sharing your story with me. I always find it inspiring when others have learned to manage their dualistic natures in a way that allows them to press on, continue forward, and not give up. I do believe my task now is to help the two become one… to bring them in alignment with each other.

@ Zeenat: Me too! I used to be more Heidi, and now I’m more Jackie, but Heidi is always there. Just as I was reading your comment, you reminded me of Tai Chi… the 70/30 rule. At any given time, 70% of your body weight rests on one foot, and 30% on the other, with constant motion and switching between them. The trick becomes to master this flow for smooth, effortless transitions.

The reason this matters to me right now is I have just signed up for a Tai Chi discovery course here, mostly to meet people, but also because I felt driven to (and I couldn’t figure out why?). Perhaps this is why… to help me master that seamless, flowing transition between my natures. Thank you, darling, for this epiphany!

@ Chris: I wondered if anyone would bring that up… the original Mr. Hyde was overcome with ANGER, not depression. And the story resonated with so many people because most of us can relate to dealing with a dualistic nature. The thing I’d like to point out here is something a reader once shared with me, “Depression is Anger turned inward.” It is the same toxic feeling, but not an outward expression of it.

Some people explode with anger, and the rest of us implode with it (towards ourselves, others, circumstances, whatever.) The key either way, I believe, is to find a productive way to handle those less-than-productive emotions. Exactly HOW that is, will vary from person to person.

By: Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 04:07:17 +0000

Thanks for this. I have a Mr. Hyde part who is a lot like Hyde in the original story — he doesn’t kill anyone, but he is pretty angry. When I feel that energy arising, though, that’s when I feel most empowered to accomplish what I want. I just need to let go of the story that letting that energy come out will be destructive.

By: Zeenat{Positive Provocations}

Zeenat{Positive Provocations} — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 03:09:59 +0000

HI Lisis,
God…reading this post made me think like you were writing about me…..freaky!!!
I have these two sides too. There is the eternal fight between the right and wrong and good versus evil. I accept both my sides. But, Like you I try and quieten the negative me with “positive reassurances”. It usually helps.
I used to be 75% Heidi and 25% Jacqueline….but over the years i think i have been able to beat miss heidi at her dirty games….I think i am 75% Jacqueline now and 25% heidi….I know..still 25% to go…but the realization and acceptance that i need to change will for sure get me to my goal….100% Jacqueline with heidi becoming a great support of positive reassurances.
Heres hoping Heidi and Jacqueline become BFFs and have happy and wholesome lives
Loved this post sweetie. As always so honest that it touches the right places of the heart and mind.
Lot of love
Zeenat{Positive Provocations}´s last blog ..Explore Dream Discover{Inspirational Quote}

By: Evita

Evita — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 00:24:23 +0000

Wow Lisis what a great, creative but most importantly authentically you post as always!

For the most part I think I have been able to bring both of these personalities to rest. Today, I feel balanced and one, oh say 90% of the time, okay maybe 80%? I am not sure, but most of the time I don’t feel one or the other of these personalities taking over in any way. Now how did I do it? Great question. I wish I could tell you, but I really don’ know. It just came over me, as I went through a lot of changes.

The biggest thing I remember is one day waking up and saying “enough” – enough of going back and forth on the roller coaster of emotions or life as some might see it.

I wanted stable, sustainable happiness and I made that my most prized intention. Today I live it. Like I said there may be moments where I do not realize my potential or don’t believe in myself enough, say like Mrs.Heidi – but these moments are now very rare. I just try to remember all that I have come to learn and become in the last 4 years of changes and that seems to work as both Mrs. Heidi and Mrs. Jacqueline today seem to be one.

So the advice I would offer is any moment is not to deny either one of them, but try to bring them in together into a balance. I think the trick to eliminating Mrs.Heidi is not to overemphasize Mrs. Jacqueline. Neither one of them is better. They are after all both opposite spectrums of our egos talking to us or through us. Thus bridge the gap between them, until they become one.
Evita´s last blog ..14 Things I Canâ€™t Live Without

By: Lisis

Lisis — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 10:50:07 +0000

@ Wilma: Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I actually went back and forth on the issue of whether to publish this or not. The story flowed out of me in a couple of minutes, so I felt like I “should” share it… like it didn’t come from ME, really, and I was meant to put it out there.

But the rational ME, the one that has spent a lifetime downplaying the Heidi side of me, trying to pretend she doesn’t exist when I KNOW she’s a major presence, did not want to publish this. However, I am learning to accept everything about ME and everything about those I come in contact with. The good sides, the perceived flaws, the inconveniences, ALL of it is part of who we are.

I’m feeling very AT ONE with myself and others. The Universal Atonement (At-One-Ment), I guess.