@Lori: Yes, honesty is an easy thing to do. What I found very hard is goooooing to honesty. I found it very hard to gradually become more and more honest. Especially with others, prejudice makes the quest harder, but hey, that’s how you learn.

@Wilma: nice point there I sometimes think about whether am I really honest with myself, or is this just another lie. Because you can make yourself believe that you’re honest, and then you totally don’t realize how big of a liar you can become. Honesty is a complex yet very beautiful subject, that I hope will learn much about.

@lena: Sometimes it’s inevitable to lie. The mission is to minimalize the number of those moments, thus simplify your life.

@Linda: oh yeah, getting in touch with reality and truth is like getting a ticket to the highway of happiness. When you lie to yourself, deep in your soul you still know that the lies make you happy. When you’re true to yourself and the others, your happiness flows through truth and freedom When you are honest, you are free!

Thanks for the kind words

Best of all,
Zoli

I completely agree with you on the fact that when you lie to yourself, you lose yourself and you won’t know who you are anymore.

When you keep lying, you’ll need to create more lies to mask the previous lies, which then just creates a whole cluster of messy stuff.

It is best to be truth to others, but most importantly to yourself.

However, in my utter most honest opinion, I really don’t think being truthful completely is possible. You can try, but not everybody is the same, and the truth will affect people in different ways. Sometimes it’ll benefit them, but sometimes it really won’t.

But then again, what is the truth? I don’t think anyone on this blog knows the absolute truth to their lives. In a way, everybody is living under their own sort of reality or “illusion”, in which is sometimes supported by lies. Everybody has a different perception to the world. Nobody thinks EXACTLY alike.

We are all human beings, and we all have the instinct to protect and promote our self-images, in which sometimes lies get subconsciously created for those purposes.

Those who want to be happy, try to create a positive reality, and those who doesn’t know how to be happy, automatically create a negative/dull reality.

bottom line, I agree we should be truthful, and I really wish we all could be…but sometimes we just have to, and sometimes it is just our natural instinct.

Unless that wish from the movie “Liar Liar” came true for all of us…I wonder what the world would be…YIKES.

anyways lol thanks for the post Zoli!

Steven

You’ve also brought up a fantastic point, that my truth is not necessarily your truth, they are merely perceptions and interpretations based on our own filters. Yet another reason to practice care when we “dump” the honest truth on someone else as if it were an objective fact. I can feel the plot thickening around this whole Truth issue… just how truthful should we be with others?

@ Lena: I feel fairly comfortable in the realm of saying we should be honest with ourselves. I’m increasingly less comfortable with the idea that being honest with others is always the right choice. As you mentioned, sometimes it is socially unacceptable. Other times it could cause more harm than good. This brings us back to the issue of how honest or genuine one should be in a relationship.

Hmm… lots to think about on this one.